I thought I'd post my response to a thread I read recently on perb here as I like the line of thinking it opened up in my mind..
The original post:
I have this theory that if you objectively think about it sex is overrated about 75% of the time. The problem is when it is good, it so fucking good that it builds the expectation that it can or be mind blowing good every time and keeps us on the hunt for more. I know even when it's bad it's still alright but I also think many times we build this picture in our heads of what it should be and usually isn't but sometimes is or even surpasses that. I blame TV and Porn for alot of this. Or maybe it's just me. Thoughts?
My reply:
I think you are right in connecting porn and tv with unrealistic attitudes.
I think our society is set up to be disappointed if every day isn't non-stop perfection. We expect so much of everything. And it is as though we are entitled, too! This, of course, is not the wise man/woman's attitude.. there comes a time (grow up, already, would ya? lol) that we can let go of what we are taught to believe we need to be happy, and just find out what REALLY makes us happy. You could find out that you don't need a wild hardcore pornstar experience to enjoy sex. Maybe you can really get into the zone where a super slow sensuous relaxed sexual encounter is really much more satisfying. You may find a lot more happiness stems from the joy and feelings of wholeness you get from an authentic connection than from having an orgasm by means which porn deems appropriate. I'm talking about personal choices you can make. How much fun and enjoyment you have out of life is always your choice! If you take time to listen and quiet your mind, you will learn things about yourself that will assist you in enjoying life more fully. Being present in the moment and seeking to enjoy the beauty of Now, instead of seeking some pre-defined experience is a good idea. xoxo Nina
