Though the saying is: YMMV, your mileage may vary, I believe your mileage ALWAYS varies. You get back from an experience what you are willing to put into it. (haven't we heard that before?)
What do you bring to the table when you are enjoying intimacy with someone?
Are you open and willing and able to stretch your comfort zone? Do you look for opportunities to go outside of your usual routine to expand your horizons? Are you what Dan Savage calls GGG? Good, Giving and Game?
I've found that the best times are always had when we push the limits of passion to find new ways, new thrills of exploring our sexuality.
Seduction is the first on my list.... sultry eye contact, soft sensuous voices mingling- revealing the things we see about the other that we find irresistible.
Working with tempo... slowing things down and savouring the sensuality, really feeling every nuance... speeding things up to a wild frenzy that envelopes you with an energy that blasts you to the moon! Getting into that rhythm you both groove on... mmmm
Being communicative is so important.. although we can be very intuitive, we can't possibly know exactly what is on each other's minds. Asking for what turns you on is a tough one for many, but just imagine if you asked and it was even better than you thought it could be? woo hoo!
Finding pleasure in pleasing is huge for me. There is nothing in the world that makes me happier than to see the look of utter satisfaction and know I had a part in making it happen. When I know that someone wants to turn me on, I find myself so excited, I just can't wait to find out what works for him too.
Being unafraid to open up and dare to ask for a wild fantasy. Yes you might not get what you want, it's true... but what if you do?? Could your willingness to push your own boundaries create an experience of a lifetime? (the answer, gentlemen.. is YES!)
If you want more mileage out of life, you've got to be willing to put some into it... life is so damned short- there's no other way I want to live it than head on, full throttle!
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